EVERYONE'S LUCKY

Oct 27, 2010
Everyone's lucky
T here always appears to be heavy opinion on the side of hard work, compared to how lucky we can be.
Truly, hard work counts for success because through it a person can be at the peak of success. But, the entire credit to hard work might not be right as luck too seems to have a role in all that. So, the presence of both luck and hard work is there in any success story.
Think who works the hardest. No, not businessman, not doctors either.
It's the labourers. Just imagine him sweating it out the entire day and yet he is not rich.

Now, analyze it yourself. Does not luck play an important role for him? Is it not because of luck he is poor despite working hard? It's luck that decides the place of your birth, whether in a poor family or rich family. So, the role of luck in any individual’s life is there, though it is not visible like hard work. For one particular reason we take the support of hard work because it is physical.

If you are wondering whether you are lucky or not. Don’t get confused; it’s with us bust the thing is only to make it work for us. You probably cannot call yourself lucky if you have won yourself a huge amount playing bingo because you may lose it within a month.

It’s something foolish to call yourself unlucky just because you could not win a trip to South Africa to watch World cup 2010 through a draw. People who think they are lucky expect good things to happen to them, so they are optimistic.

What do you call the Pandavas?

Lucky or unlucky? They were born in a noble family, came up with such great power and achieved victory in the end.
Now, will it not be stupid if we call them unlucky simply for the fact they lost all gambling? Luck is there for all of us. We simply need to search for it seriously and the best possible way to search for luck is through sincere effort with positive vision.

It’s wrong to claim yourself unlucky simply because you don’t win in a game of ludo or cards. No matter what you are, even a laborer, you can give good education to your children for their bright future. You will definitely feel lucky to be the father of such wonderful son or daughter at that time. But you can never avoid hard work, hard work and luck come all together. So, we all are lucky in one way or the other.

PUBLISHED IN : THE HIMALAYAN TIMES [ 27 OCTOBER 2010 ]
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Gadget Addiction

Oct 9, 2010
Gadget Addiction




‘Oh! There is I pad in the market’, ‘I am tired of using this old set, Please! I want I phone now!’, ‘Dad! I have been using Pulsar for last two years, now I want Fazer!’

Are not these sings of gadget addiction? We want all the updated stocks of the market. Basically, the youths get to enjoy lot with the gadget. Youths are the one who quickly get updated about the latest product in the market. They are all aware regarding the launching date of Apple’s I pad in the market. They know all the features, price of it. Youth are curious about it and get well informed about the product before hand.

‘Mom All my friends come to college in scooty, I am only the one to wait for micro, Please request dad!’. What can parents do in such situation? How can a parent tolerate that their child is going through a problem of humiliation? For the teen sensation, especially of big towns it has been a kind of fashion to get updated with the gadgets. What can an individual do when it is a kind of trend? It is awkward obviously to carry Nokia 1600 at go to college when all the friends are there with fancy latest sets. Or the youth cannot get mixed with the group who all have bike with them. Honestly, we can see the groups separation in any college as per the interest. Bikers have separate friend circle, similarly cell phone group are different. For medium class group, who hardly manage for the education fees are separate, smokers are different and studious student are different. No matter what, any teen would definitely get attracted towards the latest gadget.

Letting the child updated with the latest gadget is not big issue for bigshots. But this can really be a troubling issue for those medium grades who hardly manage to afford for the education. But what can parents do when it is a trend in the college itself? So there remains no option besides adding the burden through loans, credits etc. With the advancement in technology youth are simply addicted towards the gadgets and the manufacturers are focusing youth to suck money through the addictive adds like “pleases you, pleases money and your girlfriend’, or let that be through pictorial signboards on the middle of the road.

There is profit to media as they get to advertise, manufacturers will be in profit for sure, and same with the Government as they get to inject tax thereby. So it is for sure that there will not be anyone to guide us regarding this. So the main initiatitive must be taken by the colleges, institutes themselves. They strictly impose the rule about the uniform. Uniform are meant to bring uniformity which will certainly reduce the gap between a millionre and a normal citizen. But what remains the value of uniform when the discrimination has been there through gadgets? Parents need to analyze the needs with the time and purchase the gadgets. They also need to figure out if those gadgets are acting has the hindrances for their future or not. However youths they need to understand the situation and learn to avoid it. They first need to think if they will be able to buy those goods to their child in the future or not. I have my friend who spend around twenty thousand per month and when I asked him if he can earn the amount himself in future he was in total confusion.

Yes! It is necessary to get informed about the latest advancements in the market. But we should not cry like child for it. Economic condition of the family, its use need to be analyzed. It’s not a good idea to demand for I pad when your cell phone has all the features in it.


REPUBLISHED IN REPUBLICA SEP25
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Exam

Sep 20, 2010
Exam season...huh!

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Dwaipayan!

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Facebook Addiction

Sep 2, 2010
Facebook Addiction
Do you have a FB account? This is a popular question among youths these days. Why spend money on all those phone calls and SMS when here is a social networking websites like facebook, Hi5, Twitter etc. We are social beings and it is a necessity for us to socialize and live in the circle of friends, family and relatives. With the passage of time, the trend has definitely been changed as we don’t go below the tree to discuss certain issue.
Basically, the last five years have been contributing a lot in this trend.

It’s certainly not a wrong idea to get connected or stay in touch with our friends, families and the cheapest and easiest way has been facebook.

I remember the time when all of the friends of school got to meet together

after three years through FB. How can I forget my friends who we left us and moved to other cities eight years back and we got to drink tea, all because of the connection provided by facebook? So it is certainly not a bad idea to get social through the web of internet. It has brought significant change in our normal culture.
Millions of people are signing up for finding old friends and new friendship through the screen in their room.

Nepal is not far from this craze either.

It’s the teen-aged groups who seem much more interesting in this e-circle.

However, we can find the page of various personalities let that be Gagan Thapa or Chirag Bangdel in it. It’s interesting to get connected with the Rj’s and Vj’s we like through facebook. Fan pages created by celebrities are interesting too.

No doubt, there definitely exists lot of advantages of faceook. But we need to focus on its disadvantages as well.
Facebook indeed is a virtual place which gathers people and is much more open even than our real society.

Friends can easily get into the privacy.

So it has been a major challenge thereby to retain privacy within the virtual network. It is a real time consuming stuff. Nothing is surprising if someone spends the whole day on facebook, basically for students. This may hamper the studies of the students as well.

Not just students, it has been a trouble in various work places as well. As staffs are on facebook, it is obvious that he or she will get disturbed through it.

Ample cases of divorce, breakups can be found on Google just because of Facebook.

Happy Surfing!







PUBLISHED IN THE HIMALAYAN TIMES ON AUGUST 27 2010 (TOPICS)
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Creating Happiness

Aug 26, 2010
Creating Happiness






Happiness has been defined as that feeling of pleasure. Happiness is a natural thing that takes place when both the brain and heart are satisfied. We are not happy when there is dissatisfaction within us. May be we are not happy with the salary we receive or with the situation of our country. Various problems like load shedding, pressure of studies, examinations create dissatisfaction within us. Satisfaction arises only when everything goes the way we want it to… You are right! These are all theoretical things!

But there are ways to create happiness if we learn how to. The first thing we need to understand about happiness is that it is a state of both the mind and emotion. When one is sure one must do one’s job, what’s the benefit of trying to avoid it? If a person learns to love his job, there is less chance of him or her feeling dissatisfied with it. If a student learns to love his book, he will obviously not find studies a burden.

It is necessary to understand that there is a difference between worrying about a problem and working to solve it. Even when we know this, we worry! It may not be possible to work to solve a problem all the time. But there are ways to minimise one’s worries.

Try flying a kite at such a time, the higher the kite reaches, the less one’s worries. Focusing on good things makes us feel great, excited, energised and enthusiastic. So, it will not be a bad idea to dedicate some of our time to being with nature to relieve us of our tension.

Research has shown that a pet helps to reduce tension also. Other ways of minimising tension is listening to music. They say music is the medicine for the heart. The right music at the right time will definitely minimise tension.

There is dissatisfaction as soon as our aim takes a wrong direction. A businessman, for example, will never be happy if he tries to become a singer if does not have the talent. Also, no matter how successful his business is, there will always be a germ of dissatisfaction within him. This will result in frustration, which might give rise to smoking and drinking habits.

Aim at happiness and make happiness our goal. If you are interested in art, go for it! Don’t worry about whether there is scope in it or not. Don’t be tensed over whether you can make a living out of it.

In brief, happiness appears from being satisfied Let’s learn to accept what we are and be satisfied with what we have. Trouble, tension, worries are the substances that act as hindrances in being satisfied.


PUBLISHED IN THE RISING NEPAL AUGUST 2010
http://www.gorkhapatra.org.np/rising.detail.php?article_id=38881&cat_id=7
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Teej traditions

Aug 18, 2010
Teej traditions



No one can deny the fact that we are rich in culture. Whether it features animal sacrifice or fasting, we have many different ways to celebrate festivals. We have different kinds of festivals like the festival of colors (Holi) and the festival of sacrifice (Dashain). Each festival has its own significance and its own features.

Each fall, women get excited and eagerly wait for Teej—wearing a red sari with the long gold ‘tilhari’ attached seems wonderful for sure. And it’s certainly fun to watch Teej songs and dances. Teej is a wonderful festival except for a few facts. First, the festival is made only for married women. Although unmarried girls are also involved, to focus of women celebrating Teej is to pray for the longevity of their husband’s life. Has anyone given thought to the cases of young widows at such a time? At the time when the entire community, friends, and relatives are dancing and wishing a good future for their husband, what might be the widow be doing? When festivals are meant for all, why does Teej feature such discrimination? If she even appears at celebration she will be cursed. Though women should be able to understand other women, somehow all is forgotten at this critical time.

Another criticism of Teej is in regards to the trend of fasting. Staying hungry without food or a drop of water is no joke. I wonder if anywhere in the Hindu holy book it has mentioned that such fasting will lead to longer lives for their husbands. Cultural practices are nothing more than constructed beliefs we have been following from generations past. Just think, if you are fasting, your daughter will obviously try to follow in the same manner, and so will your granddaughter. If you are the senior female member of your family, if you introduce the system of drinking lemon water mixed with tulsi powder it would be a great relief to your generation for sure.

There are cases of women fainting during the festival of Teej. So my question is, without any proven reason for refraining from eating throughout the day, why should women blindly follow such a hard and fast rule with such threats to their health? And although Teej should bring women together, the jewellery and costumes of the day highlight the gap between the rich and the poor. Special programmes draw a boundary line between the rich and the poor, and can make those unable to afford the nicest dress insecure. Festivals are meant for all; we shouldn’t let the ornaments of the

festival create discrimination during the time of celebration.

It is society and humans that create cultural practices and keep them alive. Teej is certainly a wonderful festival. Limited fasting from time to time can keep us healthy, but it shouldn’t be done out of the belief that it will help our husbands. Let’s join hands to get rid of these unnecessary parts of Teej so that the upcoming generation won’t criticise our backwards practices.


PUBLISHED IN THE KATHMANDU POST (AUG 18 2010)
http://www.ekantipur.com/the-kathmandu-post/2010/08/17/oped/teej-traditions/211708/
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