Backbiting Society

Backbiting is gradually becoming the popular fast growing trend in our society. Since the person cannot make criticism in front of the person itself, he back bites the person and most of us; we do it time and again. Out of various reasons, in order to raise our own position is the major cause of back biting. However as a social trend, we also back bite as social trend to support friends, and also in order to describe other person's negative attribute in a state of anger. Backbiting is certainly not any good habit, and is a responsible factor that builds negative attributes within us.

Prophet of Islam says, 'The worst person is one; who does back-biting against his Muslim brother to the king and to do sleuthing against him. This sleuthing is bad for him, for the friend against whom he had reported and also for the king.' Whenever a person struggles and moves towards the path of achievement, there takes birth of many back biters and among them again unexpected one starts pulling the leg. This trend always makes a good person bad in the vision of various people. Islam has pronounced the act of sleuthing and backbiting taboo. Why should we worry or talk about the shopkeeper who has been progressing? Or, why should we criticize the Bachelor passed student who does the job of driving? Let them go wherever they want, and rather support them. When their family, members don’t utter a word, why do these so called relatives appear and turn out to be hero? One who does not see huge elephant in their body sees ant in other's body. It indeed is stupidity to criticize or back bite the non smoker for any smoker. Simply because he does not smoke, he should not criticize then person who smokes. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t smoke but I join my friends in every other activities and I don’t have any bad feelings for them! I even don’t mind if they come to my room and smoke!

Although regarded but it indeed is difficult task and challenging task to remove the trend of back biting from the society, and all of us need to accept this, and basically those struggling people need to compulsorily understand this and move ahead. Backbiters should not be the hindrance in our struggling life. We need to stay aware that there can then appear again another group to pull our leg, but we should stay conscious. It is the bitter truth that your friends, relatives are the one who back bites. Oh come on! When even son and father back bites each other, how can we expect some one other not to back bite us.

You be the topper, you will have separate group back biting after you. You are any event manger in your college, you will have a group back biting, even trying to pull your legs. Was not the most wanted PM, Dr. Babu Ram Bhattarai in that situation? After all, it is always easy to comment than to act.

So, let us accept that there exists various back biting people behind us and still struggle to move ahead. Let us regard, when there is backbiting going on, the progress is clenching its height. Let us believe that that there has to be backbiting for a person in order for him to be successful. Let us remember those heroes who managed to build up the courage to make strong determination despite of huge back bitings; and let us build of the courage of getting prepared for backbiting for any projects, so that it would not act as our hindrance on the way. Let the backbiters backbite you, but don’t let them pull your leg. Let us learn from Justin Bieber, who has been able to make strong way despite of huge back biting. 

Published in Everest Height Monthly of September