Living Alone

Living Alone

After reading the Sociology textbook of my course written by CN Shankar Rao, reading to the notes provided by my Sociology teacher and listening to his lecture, I came to the conclusion that living alone is the best way to be social. The thoughts in fact contradict with those from the entire sociology book of course. 

Man is a social animal, and needs a society to live. Yes, he cannot live in isolation. Man cannot live alone at the top of Everest even if he has got sufficient amount of oxygen with him. But, I probably would not be wrong to express the idea that man gradually prefers to live in isolation, away from family, politics, tradition and religion. To prove this the data from The New York Times shows that American cities like Denver, San Francisco forty percent of the house has single member in it, and the data gets increased when we view of Washington. Paris, popularly known as love city, consists almost half of entire house with single member in it. It is understandable that their religion promotes such individualism, and our culture teaches us to live in the family. They are living in the culture that teaches them to live their father’s home as soon as they cross their age limit and we are of the culture that teaches us to be together with our parents throughout the entire life. However, we can see that there are conflicts in our tradition more than theirs in such case.

But even the sociology explains that more than social, man is a biological animal. Gone are the days when people feel lonely, bore and anxiety in living alone. Living alone provides self realization and personal control. And the more weighty part, living alone provides you freedom. You can masturbate whenever you want or can stay nude if there are lots of troubles within your mind. You can sleep in what so ever bed you want, and no one is going to complain you if your room gets messed up. No one will be there scold you for your dirty bed sheets either. You can eat whatever you want; you can cook it of your own or can go out and have it in a mess. This can be one major reason why youths fly abroad in the name of education. I don’t want you to broke up with your husband and wife and go for single life, but just want you to change your perception for those friends, family members or relatives who stay alone. You may think living alone is living in isolation, but the research had already shown that people who live alone are more social than those who live with a group. Because those peoples who are living alone get enough time for everything, they get time to feel that they have not talked to their dad and mom. Or they get time to think that it has been a long they have not visited to their aunt’s home. This time can never be gained when you don’t live alone. Technologies like cell phone, internet has made the living much easier. Research also shows that those people who live alone goes out more. Hence, living alone will never let you be in isolation anyways, rather fosters your development. You read novels, spend time for books, you learn to cook, you learn how to wash clothes and utensils when you live alone. It is not because it is a compulsion, but you prefer doing it considering it personal control phenomena.  You get the confidence to live in any part of the world.

Life may or may not give you this opportunity for you to live alone, but if you get it, make a taste of it. In this modern technological era, you will never be feeling lonely and bore to live alone. Once you get habituated you feel irritate to live in crowd, you feel the morning tea talk or the evening dinner talk is pure waste of time. I can say this because I have been living alone in Kathmandu alone and I am happy. It indeed is hard to live as there is scarcity of gas in the capital, there is loadshedding that appears as huge hindrance in my daily living, but still I am satisfied. I now have the confidence that I can go and study Masters in any part of the world by staying alone. I am not feeling lonely. I cook of my own, I wash clothes and utensils, I clean rooms and still I get enough time to be social.

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