Taking Advice
We are social creatures, and we seek freedom. It’s really irritating if someone tries to treat you like a captive. Maybe freedom is one major reason why youngsters fly abroad as there is no one to scold them and they get to live their life in the way they want. Truly, when it’s our life, we should get the freedom to live as we wish.
But this does not happen here. There are thousands of actors who turn out to be a villain in our life. Every senior we meet tries to give us advice on how we must live.
One says, if you don’t study science, that’s stupid, while others will claim there is no scope in science. I am sure such advice is not new. I don’t call such advisors bad, as they mean well. But it’s the advice receiver who needs to tolerate them. Since they are our seniors, there is no point in arguing with them.
Probably, they are exposing their feelings in the advice they give. Or else, why should the advice vary from one person to another? One suggests you go abroad after completing high school, while another will claim there will be much trouble earning and studying there. Now what do you call this? Advice? I call it a feeling. Such varying advice causes irritation in you. The feeling of irritation will then be followed by confusion, frustration and anger.
In Nepal, it is difficult to avoid the advice of others. Even a person sitting next to you in a bus is ever ready to give you expert advice. The advice receiver must, therefore, grow wise and properly analyse all the advice he is receiving.
One says drinking is necessary as one needs to socialise while another will say drinking is not good for you. Now don’t get confused. Mix the two pieces of advice and arrive at the conclusion that drinking in limits is okay.
There really is nothing wrong in lending your ears to people’s advice. Take in all the advice they give for free and then give them a thought. Know the benefits and effects of studying science from the advisors and then you decide for yourself what to do in the end.
Your grandfather may say, do not listen to AC-DC’s songs as they will make the hearing or listening power weak. Now your cousin may claim that AC-DC is the best band in the entire universe and praise its style. Now it’s up to you, will you listen to AC-DC just because your cousin likes it or will you avoid stop listening to it simply because your grandfather hates it?
Both of them are right. So listen to AC-DC, Enrique and Beatles once. If you like any of them, that’s perfect. You can listen to AC-DC in low volume. Or you may not like any of them, instead you may settle for Taylor Swift’s songs. So listen to her songs. But whatever decision you take in the end has to be meaningful. And let that be the unspoken advice to others.
(PUBLISHED IN THE RISING NEPAL APR 25 2011)
We are social creatures, and we seek freedom. It’s really irritating if someone tries to treat you like a captive. Maybe freedom is one major reason why youngsters fly abroad as there is no one to scold them and they get to live their life in the way they want. Truly, when it’s our life, we should get the freedom to live as we wish.
But this does not happen here. There are thousands of actors who turn out to be a villain in our life. Every senior we meet tries to give us advice on how we must live.
One says, if you don’t study science, that’s stupid, while others will claim there is no scope in science. I am sure such advice is not new. I don’t call such advisors bad, as they mean well. But it’s the advice receiver who needs to tolerate them. Since they are our seniors, there is no point in arguing with them.
Probably, they are exposing their feelings in the advice they give. Or else, why should the advice vary from one person to another? One suggests you go abroad after completing high school, while another will claim there will be much trouble earning and studying there. Now what do you call this? Advice? I call it a feeling. Such varying advice causes irritation in you. The feeling of irritation will then be followed by confusion, frustration and anger.
In Nepal, it is difficult to avoid the advice of others. Even a person sitting next to you in a bus is ever ready to give you expert advice. The advice receiver must, therefore, grow wise and properly analyse all the advice he is receiving.
One says drinking is necessary as one needs to socialise while another will say drinking is not good for you. Now don’t get confused. Mix the two pieces of advice and arrive at the conclusion that drinking in limits is okay.
There really is nothing wrong in lending your ears to people’s advice. Take in all the advice they give for free and then give them a thought. Know the benefits and effects of studying science from the advisors and then you decide for yourself what to do in the end.
Your grandfather may say, do not listen to AC-DC’s songs as they will make the hearing or listening power weak. Now your cousin may claim that AC-DC is the best band in the entire universe and praise its style. Now it’s up to you, will you listen to AC-DC just because your cousin likes it or will you avoid stop listening to it simply because your grandfather hates it?
Both of them are right. So listen to AC-DC, Enrique and Beatles once. If you like any of them, that’s perfect. You can listen to AC-DC in low volume. Or you may not like any of them, instead you may settle for Taylor Swift’s songs. So listen to her songs. But whatever decision you take in the end has to be meaningful. And let that be the unspoken advice to others.
(PUBLISHED IN THE RISING NEPAL APR 25 2011)
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